caught up in one incident after another that involves your security； sensation；
or power programming； you can create a living hell in your daily interaction
with a child。
The Twelve Pathways presented in Chapter 4 should be memorized so that
you can get them below your rational level into the deeper circuitry of your
bioputer that controls how you see your world。 These Twelve Pathways
show you the road to higher consciousness。 Whenever you are angry； fearful；
or jealous； you will find that it is because you have ignored one or more of the
Pathways。 While they apply to every situation in your life； it is especially
important that you use them when interacting with children。 You are giving
them models of programming that they will duplicate to “make it” in life。
Children will rapidly integrate the challenges of life when they are around
adults who openly municate from the Fourth or higher Centers of
Consciousness。 The Seventh Pathway says； “I open myself genuinely to all
people by being willing to fully municate my deepest feelings； since
hiding in any degree keeps me stuck in my illusion of separateness from other
people。” This is especially important with children； for their ability to tune in
to you on the feeling level is very accurate。 If you feel one thing and say
something else； you will be training them in dishonesty。 Even though their
rational minds may not yet permit them to be as adept at word games as you
are； their relative freedom from rationality makes them more perceptive of
feelings even though you cleverly manipulate them with words。 Children
intuitively sense your dishonesty and will not trust you。 However； they will
mirror your conduct by learning to manipulate you with words。 When you
label and criticize them； they will mirror this by labeling and criticizing you。
When you threaten and bribe them； they will threaten and bribe you。 And
they can often beat you at mirroring your games！
Always remember that everything that makes you upset in your interactions
with a child represents your addictions not his。 When your addictive
programming makes you upset； you will respond to a child in a way that helps
to program addictions into his bioputer。 When you respond to every
here…and…now situation in a loving； conscious way； you will be able to do
exactly what needs to be done。 The Ninth Pathway is very helpful； “I act
freely when I am tuned in； centered； and loving； but if possible I avoid acting
when I am emotionally upset and depriving myself of the wisdom that flows
from love and expanded consciousness。”
Although you will find all of the Pathways useful when living with children；
the Twelfth Pathway should be particularly uppermost in your consciousness：
“I am perceiving everyone； including myself； as an awakening being who is
here to claim his or her birthright to the higher consciousness planes of
unconditional love and oneness。” How do you treat an awakening being？ Do
you criticize him； belittle him； evaluate him； bribe him； get angry with him； try
to manipulate him？ Or do you just love him and serve him？ If he asks you to
do something； you do it if you are able to。 If you cannot do it； you know that
he will understand。 Children have a deep understanding on intuitive levels。 If
their consciousness has not been muddied with power games； children are
very realistic in accepting the here and now conditions in their lives。
The Living Love Catalyst； ALL WAYS US LIVING LOVE； （See the Fourth
Method in Chapter 13） can be helpful in freeing your consciousness from
security； sensation； and power addictions when interacting with children。 You
may wish to start this Catalyst in your consciousness and keep it going for
many hours。 You let words and other sounds； visual impulses； and touch
sensations pour into the background of your consciousness。 When you keep
ALL WAYS US LIVING LOVE constantly turning in your mind； your
vibrations will bee more peaceful and loving。 The perceptions which are
then placed into your Conscious…awareness by your vast and plex
bioputer will be those which tune you in to a deep calm place within
yourself and the children around you。 Since children are such excellent
mirrors； anything you do to uplevel your consciousness will rapidly be
reflected in an upleveling of the consciousness of the children around you。
Unless you are free of the lower three levels of consciousness； from time to
time your addictive emotional programming will fill your consciousness with
fear； anger； or resentment。 When this happens； you use these emotional
feelings as a golden opportunity to reprogram yourself through the Method of
Consciousness Focusing。 This is the Fifth Method of growth in the Living
Love Way to Higher Consciousness。 If you constantly use the here…and…now
experience that your life is giving you； your interaction with children can
rapidly accelerate your growth into higher consciousness。 You should regard
it as an evasion if you tell yourself that you cannot grow into higher
consciousness because you have young children to take care of and they
are such a distraction。 It is likely that you can grow into higher consciousness
more rapidly because you do have the benefit of interacting with children。
Firmness is sometimes necessary in order to teach a child how to live with
others and to cope with the physical dangers of the world。 One mother might
punish a child from a subject…object； alienated space that will create
separation。 Another mother may “punish” a child in the same way but from a
Fourth Center； loving space that will bring them closer together。 The things
that you actually do in interacting with a child are not as important as the
Center of Consciousness that you are working from。 A person at the Fourth
Center of Consciousness prefers to be receptive and accepting； but when life
requires it； he or she can use firmness or force from a loving space。 Parents
operating from the Fourth Center of Consciousness will do what needs to be
done in each situation and accept and love both the child and themselves
seeing it all as part of the warp and woof of the universe。
Always remember that the experience of peace； love； and serenity are created
by the way in which you operate your bioputer。 The world you perceive
is based on the automatic programming below conscious levels that selects
everything that is introduced into your consciousness。 As you grow into
higher consciousness； your perceptions of what is here and now in your life
will be introduced into your consciousness without triggering emotions that
lead your rational mind to churn away with security； sensation； and power
stuff。 When a panoramic perception of the here and now is introduced into
your consciousness within a framework of openness and love； you live in a
deep； calm place within your heart。 You will perceive the drama going on
outside of you。 You will effectively do what you need to do。 and you will
enjoy as drama all of the “ugly” things and the “beautiful” things that are
being acted out on the stage that passes before your eyes each day。 The joy
and ecstasy of life is yours as you bee one with the Law of Higher
Consciousness Love everyone unconditionally including yourself。
Chapter 21
How To Increase Your Enjoyment of Sex
Sex； as well as the rest of the drama in your life； may be experienced at any
level of consciousness。 It may be done on the security level （as in the case of
a turned…off wife who lets it happen to keep her marriage together）； or the
sensation level （as with a playboy）； or on the power level （such as a man who
challenges himself to make it with a difficult…to…get partner）。 Sex is
experienced on the love level of consciousness （when you use the experience
to flow more lovingly and acceptingly）； or on the Cornucopia level （when one
finds in the experience of sex a deeper awareness of the way in which life
offers us everything we need）。 On the sixth level of consciousness one
watches the drama of the physical union from a deep calm place within one’s
heart。 On the seventh level of consciousness； one bees the sexual
experience。 It is not perceived as something that is happening to oneself。
Instead； one feels an identity with everything and everyone。 On this level；
you would not experience sex as a happening you are the happening。 。 。 。
Unless you are well on your way on the journey to higher consciousness； you
are probably now experiencing sex largely on the second level of
consciousness。 You engage in sex with your partner for your mutual
enjoyment。 Your consciousness during sex is concerned with the sensations
that you have during the time you are making love and especially during the
moments of orgasm。 The consciousness of your partner similarly will be
focused on the delightful sensations。 Although there is cooperation and
agreement between you regarding what is happening； each of you is using the
other as an object with which to gratify a desire for sexual feelings。 There is
thus a subject…object separateness that deprives you of the more beautiful
feelings that await you when sex is experienced from higher levels of
consciousness。
Sex at the second level of consciousness leaves you vulnerable in many ways。
You may pare tonight’s experience with the high feelings of a previous
night； and this parison may lead you to feel that what happened tonight
was not quite “enough。” You are vulnerable to disappointment if your partner
is tired or for some reason is not interested。 If the experience is particularly
great； your consciousness will begin to wonder how soon you can repeat it
or whether you can repeat it at all。
This grasping； manipulative focus of consciousness keeps you from being
pletely satisfied here and now。 It keeps you on a roller…coaster of
pleasure and disappointment。 Our habit of anticipating the future rather than
letting ourselves pletely experience the here…and…now enjoyment of life
can enormously detract from the experience of sex。 For example； a man may
spend an evening dining and talking with a woman with a large proportion of
his consciousness involved in his anticipation of going to bed with her later
that night。 He is bodily with her； but a large par