personal； automatically programmed responses to life situations most of
which are childhood hangups。
As you work toward higher levels of consciousness； you will find that you
have always had enough to be happy。 It is the patterns in your head that
make you unhappy； although you usually blame the people and conditions
outside you for your unhappiness。 Your journey into higher consciousness
can enable you to be loving； peaceful； wise； and free of a constant barrage of
unpleasant emotional feelings。
Living Love offers you four advantages in your adventure into higher
consciousness：
1。 For many people it can be one of the most powerful and rapid ways for
growth into higher consciousness that has ever been available to mankind。
2。 It does not require you to detach yourself from your present life。 Living
Love can be used most effectively if you stay with your present business；
personal life； and other conditions until you have grown to a high enough
state of consciousness to be fully perceptive of the arbitrary mores；
folkways； and social roles you are guarding and living out。
3。 Once you thoroughly understand the system； it is not essential to have a
teacher for continuing your growth。 Your life will be your best teacher； for
you will discover that you are always putting yourself into learning
situations that are ideal for your growth。 The programming that you most
need to change has an unerring way of putting you into life situations that
can make you aware of the exact inner work you should be doing。
4。 When you use the Living Love Way to find the love； inner peace； wisdom；
and effectiveness of higher consciousness； your inner work on yourself
immediately adds to your enjoyment of life。 With the Living Love Way；
happiness is not a distant goal it is an ever…growing part of your here
and now。
Think of the energy you now put into the up…and…down hour…by…hour coping
with your feelings while you continually try to rearrange the people and
situations in your life so that you can then be loving； serene； effective； and
happy。 And yet year by year your quest for happiness is as elusive as finding
the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow。 Since almost everyone around you
seems to be having similar trouble in being a happy； loving being； you
may have lowered your standards and decided that continuous happiness is
probably not realistic。
The Living Love Way invites you to set the highest imaginable standards of
love； serenity； peace； wisdom； effectiveness； and continuous happiness for
your life。 and then you are ready to begin your journey into higher
consciousness。
Chapter 2
Secrets of Happiness
Why do we have lives filled with turmoil； desperation； and anxiety？ Why are
we always pushing ourselves and others？ Why do we have only small
dribbles of peace； love； and happiness？ Why is it that human beings are
characterized by bickering and turmoil that make animals’ relationships with
their own species seem peaceful in parison？ The answer is so simple
but it is sometimes difficult for us to really understand because almost every
way we were taught to work toward happiness only reinforces the feelings
and activities that make us unhappy。
This is a central point that must be understood。 The ways we were taught to
be happy can’t possibly work。 Unless we see this point clearly； we cannot
progress to higher consciousness。 Here’s why。
Most of us assume that our desires （backed up by our emotional feelings） are
the true guides to doing the things that will make us happy。 But no one has
yet found happiness by using emotion…backed desires as guides。 Flashes of
pleasure； yes； happiness； no。
Our wants and desires are so seductive 。 。 。 They masquerade as “needs” that
must be satisfied so we can be happy at last。 They lead us from one illusion
of happiness to another。 Some of us tell ourselves； “if I can just get to be
president of this corporation； I will be happy。” But have you ever seen a
really happy president？ His outside drama may feature beautiful yachts；
Cadillacs； Playboy bunnies but is he really happy inside？ Has his ulcer
gone away yet？
We constantly tell ourselves such things as； “If I could just go back to school
and acquire more knowledge perhaps get a Master’s degree then I will
be happy。” But are people with Master’s degrees or Ph。D。’s any happier than
the rest of us？ It is beautiful to acquire knowledge but it is misleading to
expect it to bring us peace； love； and happiness。 We tell ourselves； “If I could
only find the right person to love； then I would be happy。” So we search for
someone who our addictions tell us is the right person and we experience
some pleasurable moments。 But since we don’t know how to love； the
relationship gradually deteriorates。 Then we decide we didn’t have the right
person after all！ As we grow into higher consciousness； we discover that it is
more important to be the right person than to find the right person。
We must deeply understand why all of our negative emotions are misleading
guides to effective action in life situations。 Our negative emotions are simply
the result of an extensive pattern of scars and wounds that we have
experienced。 And these emotional wounds lead us to perceive differences
that make us uptight instead of similarities that enable us to understand and
love。 The present programming of our emotions makes us perceive other
people （and the conditions of the world around us） as threats potentially
dangerous to our well…being。 We then respond with adrenalin； faster
heartbeat； increased blood sugar； and other jungle survival responses that
prepare us for fight or flight。 We are trapped in our ways of perceiving the
world around us。
But no one （or no situation） need be felt as an emotional threat or danger
when we see things with the clearer perception of higher consciousness。
Think of the most threatening situation you have felt in the last day or two。
Are you about to lose your job？ Is the person for whom you feel the most
love paying more attention to someone else than to you？ Do you have unpaid
bills that you cannot take care of？ Do you have a pain that could be cancer？
Now； these problems either have solutions or they don’t。 Either you can do
something about them here and now or you can’t。 If you can do something
here and now about them； then do it even if it’s just a first step。 It saps
your energy to be worried or anxious about a problem。 Do what you can do
but don’t be addicted to the results or you will create more worry for
yourself。 If you can’t do anything about a problem here and now； then why
make yourself unfortable and drain your energy by worrying about it？ It
is part of the here and nowness of your life。 That’s what is here and now。
Worry； anxiety； or other unpleasant emotions are absolutely unnecessary
and simply lower your insight and the effectiveness of your actions。
You must absolutely convince yourself of the lack of utility of these draining
emotions。 You must see your unnecessary worrying as depriving you of the
flowing effectiveness and joyousness that you should have in your life。 As
long as you think that these negative emotions have any function whatsoever；
you will retard your growth into higher consciousness。 If you do not hassle
yourself emotionally when the outside world does not conform with your
inside programming （your desires； expectations； demands； or models of how
the world should treat you） you will have so much energy that you probably
will sleep fifty per cent less。 You will be joyous and loving； and really
appreciate each moment of your life no matter what’s happening in the
world of people and situations outside you。
Where and how did we get this emotional programming？ Almost all of it was
acquired in the first few years of life。 For example； when we were very
young； we had the experience of mother forcefully taking a perfume bottle
from our tiny fingers and at the same time sending out bad vibrations based
on her desire not to have her perfume bottle broken。 We cried。 Through
being painfully pushed around； dominated； told what to do； and controlled
when we were babies； we developed our emotionally intense security；
sensation； and power programs。 Many of our emotion…backed programs
came from repeated moral directives or statements about how things “should”
be。 We developed a “self” consciousness with robot…like emotional
responses to protect the “survival” of this separate self。
So we bee emotionally programmed to feel that we must have power to
control and manipulate people in order to be happy。 We eventually bee
very finely attuned to the actions or vibrations of any person or situation that
even remotely threatens our power addictions our ability to manipulate and
control people and things around us。
As we reach physical maturity and our bioputer （or brain） is able to
function more perceptively； we have all the power we need。 But our
bioputer （backed up by the full repertory of our emotions） is still
programmed to pensate for the power deficiency we experienced when
we were infants and young children。 We now need to learn to flow with the
people and things around us。 But our power addiction keeps us from loving
people because we perceive them as objects that may threaten our power；
prestige； or pecking order。 If we want to love and be loved； we can’t be
addicted to power or to anything else。
As conscious beings the only thing we need to find happiness in life is to
perceive clearly who we are （we are pure consciousness and not the social
roles we are acting out）； and exactly what are the real conditions； here and
now； of our lives。 How basically simple is our problem！ But to achieve this
clear perception of ourselves and the world around us takes constant inner
work。 And this means developing the habit of emotionally accepting
whatever is here and now in our lives。 For only an emotionally calm
bioputer can see clearly and wisely； and e up with effective ways to
interact with people and situations。
Our power addiction is only one example of the happiness…destroying
programming that we put into our bioputers when we were too young to
perceive the realities of the world i