everything I feel； think； say； and do （including my emotion…backed
addictions） as a necessary part of my growth into higher consciousness。
The Living Love Way to Higher Consciousness is based on the instant
emotional acceptance here and now of that which you previously regarded as
unacceptable in your life。 Acceptance simply means that you won’t cause
yourself emotional conflict because of your current perceptions。 Emotional
acceptance doesn’t mean that you have to continue living the rest of your life
with any particular person or situation。 You are free to do anything you prefer
to do but don’t be addicted to the results of your actions。 If someone does
something that “hurts your ego；” you will grow fastest if you consciously
regard him or her as your teacher who is enabling you to discover which
addictions you will have to reprogram。
You really savor living when you consciously experience everything that you
feel and do as taking place in the theater that we call our world。 You see
yourself and others as actors in the daily drama of life。 But the real you is not
your body or mind。 You’re not the actor。 The real you is your Consciousawareness。
And your Conscious…awareness is just digging the whole show
from the audience。 Shakespeare wrote；
All the world’s a stage；
And all the men and women； merely players；
They have their exits and their entrances；
And one man in his time plays many parts。
When you watch the entire drama of your life and that of other people from
the safe vantage point of the audience； you begin to provide a distance that
enables you to see your addictions more clearly。 You will find it easier to
pletely accept the addictive dramas that you have to play out on the stage
of your life。 You will find a turned…on joy in consciously experiencing
everything as a necessary part of your growth into higher consciousness。
To grow in the Living Love Way； you do not have to drill yourself and
criticize yourself with military precision。 Just experience everything in an
accepting； relaxed； and conscious way and realize that every one of your
experiences is perfect for your here and now growth into higher
consciousness。 Your addictions will gradually fade away when you use the
Living Love Pathways to consciously interpret your moment…to…moment
stream of consciousness。 Don’t push the river just experience the river
consciously from the vantage point of the Twelve Pathways。
Chapter 7
Interacting With Others
Flowing not manipulation is the way of higher consciousness。 Flowing
means moving with the forces around us being in tune with the vibrations
of the people and things in our environment。 Flowing enables us to find the
love； beauty； and peace that we are missing in our lives。 But flowing is
impossible based on the models of how to be happy that we learned in our
childhood； for we cannot flow or harmonize when we are the slaves of our
addictions。 Our addictions force us to manipulate ourselves and others。 As
adults whose minds and bodies have pleted their structural growth； we
have the potential of flowing in the river of our lives in a beautiful； loving
way。
SEVENTH PATHWAY
I open myself genuinely to all people by being willing to fully
municate my deepest feelings； since hiding in any degree keeps me
stuck in my illusion of separateness from other people。
As you begin to uplevel all of your addictions to the status of preferences （or
eliminate them entirely）； you will discover that you no longer have anything
to hide from other people。 It then feels good to be able to municate with
each person exactly what your are experiencing。 As you grow into higher
consciousness through eliminating your addictions； you will be able to drop
all deceptive； subject…object manipulation in the games you have been playing
the money game； the security game； the male…female game； the prestige
game； the power game； the knowledge game； the expert game； etc。 These can
be beautiful games to play when you play them consciously and lovingly； but
they generate suffering and unhappiness when you play them addictively。
When you are not pletely open and truthful to all people when you are
trying to hide a part of your inner feelings you continue the illusion of
separateness from others。 Hasn’t everyone been caught up in the addictions
for security； sensation； and power？ Are you under the illusion that you have
desires and feelings that are so horrible that others will be shocked？ Or are
we really all one？ Deep inside； all of us have experienced this self…imposed
suffering and isolation that keeps us from being peaceful and loving even
though we may not have perceived it as self…imposed。 We have all been in
similar predicaments at one time or another in our lives。
One of the ways out of this wall of isolation is to municate； “Well； here I
am。 This is what my addictions are making me feel here and now。 I accept
myself （including my addictions） as being on an unfolding journey toward a
peaceful； loving state of higher consciousness。”
When you’re around someone who is experiencing fairly continuous states of
higher consciousness； you can be sure that he or she will conditionally accept
you exactly where you are now for he or she has traveled over the same
road and prefers to help you。 You can grow fastest and enjoy the trip most
（even though your remaining addictions make it a bit rocky sometimes） if you
can relax and just municate fully。
It feels so good to be able to just open up and let people see all of you。
You’ll be amazed at how quickly they can then cut through their drama and
accept you without the phony masks and roles with which you previously
identified。 You have every right to feel exactly as you feel。 If “others” are
bothered； that’s their problem。 You’re their teacher giving them experiences
they need to reprogram their addictions just as they are your teacher
enabling you to find your addictions。
When you consistently use the Pathways； you do not have to scream；
viciously attack； or otherwise unduly threaten another person in order to
municate your deepest feelings。 You don’t need to lay judgments on
people or prove them wrong。 You just talk about your own consciousness。
Instead of； “You are horrible and I don’t want to ever see you again；” you can
say； “You’ve put me in touch with one of my addictions； and right now I feel
so angry at you I don’t want to be with you。” When you just talk about your
own consciousness； you give both yourself and the other person a better
chance to work through the addictive programming that produces the illusion
of separateness。
The Ninth Pathway suggests that you give yourself a short period of time to
work through the emotion caused by your addiction。 But if you are at the
beginning of your consciousness growth； you may find it more important to
municate quickly so that your relationships are always “up front。”
Remember； hiding separates； openness unites。
As you grow into higher consciousness； you will bee aware of the many
ways in which you have been involved in plex role playing； with hidden
“shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” that create plicated patterns of demanding
and expectation。 You can work effectively toward the “us” space when you
genuinely and openly municate your feelings and reveal the security；
sensation； and power dance that you have been doing。 You will find that you
can usually cut through these ensnaring dramas by expressing your
preferences clearly to yourself and others。 You will realize that open
munication of your innermost feelings helps your ego （and the egos of
other people） to get free of addictive programming which in the long run only
produces unhappiness and alienation。
EIGHTH PATHWAY
I feel with loving passion the problems of others without getting
caught up emotionally in their predicaments that are offering them
messages they need for their growth。
All your emotional problems are created by your addictions。 Your growth
into higher consciousness consists of being free of these traps。 When you
interact with people who are still involved in this automatic puter…like
emotional programming； it is important that you learn to feel their problems
with loving passion； but without getting caught up emotionally in their
predicaments。 passionate understanding yes； pity and miseration
no。
passion means that when you empathize with the predicaments of other
people； you silently send out the vibration； “Yes； I know。 I’ve been there too。
It’s OK to feel the way you do however； try to see that it’s all drama。 Life
always has its ‘tigers’ and we do what we can about them。 But above all；
let’s be sure to continuously enjoy the ‘strawberries。’ There are always
enough strawberries to enjoy our here and now if we don’t put all of our
attention on the tigers！”
passion means that you understand the duality and separation they are
creating in themselves by rejecting what is here and now in their lives but
you do not get caught up in their poignant drama。 passion means that
you realize that you can do the most for other people when you stay centered
and high and loving whenever you are around them for they are playing out
their addictions； suffering because of them； and hopefully picking up the
messages life is offering them。 passion means that you love and serve
them from a clear love space； and not from a pulsiveness or guilt
motivated by your remaining security； sensation； or power addictions。
You learn not to give gifts that you cannot emotionally afford to give。 When
you resent helping someone； this creates obligations； duality； and separation。
You cannot psychologically afford to give such help； and the recipient cannot
afford to receive it。 The price in personal distance and separation is too high
if you give to avoid a feeling of “guilt” or from a “should” or “ought”
motivation。
When you help someone because of a feeling of obligation or duty rather than
free…flowing love； you may find yourself resenting the person for needing
your help。 These negative feelings can prevent you from being sensitive to
his or her real here…and…now needs； and doing or saying what would really be
helpful。 Very often just