doing you will disturb your peace and serenity。 You will also disturb his or
her peace and serenity。 And you will produce a duality and alienation that
slightly dilutes the feelings of love that make the relationship delightful。 You
need to tell yourself that if you love that person and gently and lovingly
municate what you prefer； she or he will sooner or later remember to
make your coffee exactly the way you want it。 It is far better for you here
and now to lovingly get up and put a little water in your coffee than to engage
in alienating emotional behavior。 Keep telling yourself that your usual habits
of control and domination have never been enough to enable you to find the
love； peace； and serenity that you would like in your human relationships。
Remind yourself at every opportunity that love and expanded consciousness
can be enough but they must be deep and genuine and flow from your inner
being。
There is nothing about higher consciousness that says you have to bee
involved in other people’s predicaments。 You just learn to love them
unconditionally regardless of what they say or do。 You’re still entitled to
your own choices； and you can steer your boat down the river of your life in
any way that you want。 Just don’t keep crashing into the boats of other
people。
Suppose your friend Mary enjoys making fish chowder and puts in a lot of
pepper to make it hot and spicy。 Suppose also that you cannot enjoy chowder
when it has that much pepper。 Using the Seventh Pathway that advises you to
municate your feelings； you tell her that you cannot enjoy the chowder
when it has so much pepper。 Suppose Mary replies that it is better to put the
pepper in when it is cooking so that is can bee blended。 If you work
from the Power Level of Consciousness； you will get into an argument and
point out that it tastes just about as good if the pepper is added later by each
individual。 Then Mary will mirror your annoyance and soon love； peace；
and serenity have temporarily departed。 If Mary accepts your attempt to
dominate the situation to fit your inside pattern； she may leave out the pepper
but feel resentful towards you。 You will have less pepper； but you may also
have less love with your meal。
Now suppose you handle the problem of the pepper in the chowder with the
plete knowledge that love and expanded consciousness are always
enough。 You have previously municated your feelings about how the
pepper keeps you from enjoying the chowder。 If Mary serves the hot
chowder again； your love and expanded consciousness may tell you that it is
more flowing to test it with a single sip and then concentrate on enjoying the
people； the salad； and everything else around you。 Just steer your ship
around the rock gently and lovingly。
Don’t put out the vibration that you can’t enjoy the chowder because of the
pepper for this would just be another method of expressing irritation。
pletely accept the fact that you’re not supposed to be eating chowder
that night； and go ahead and enjoy whatever there is to enjoy。 Don’t put out
any feeling tones that could make Mary unfortable because you are
sacrificing yourself and not eating the chowder。 Just flow as though the
chowder had never been served。
If you can love Mary just as much when she does not follow your request to
leave out the pepper； it is very likely that your love and expanded
consciousness will enable you to enjoy unpeppered chowder the next time。
For Mary is a conscious being； and she will notice that you are not eating the
chowder。 She will also notice your plete acceptance of this； and she will
not be likely to get upset about it。 She will just accept it as “that which is。”
Mary will appreciate your not plaining repeatedly about putting in too
much pepper。 She may begin to feel that although she prefers putting in the
pepper when it is cooking； she has a greater preference for your enjoying the
chowder next time。 So you may find that Mary may quietly omit the pepper
the next time she makes the chowder。 If you can keep your consciousness
pletely free of the Power Center； you will help Mary stay away from her
Power Center。 And the simple matter of peppering the chowder will not
bee plex because of the ego stuff that you mirror back and forth。
And what if Mary does not choose to make the chowder the next time with
less pepper？ You simply accept that as being a part of the here and nowness
of your life。 You’re not supposed to be eating chowder when she fixes it。
This is not a great sacrifice。 You may not be enjoying chowder； but you are
enjoying love and serenity which are far more nourishing than any chowder
could ever be。 You are also helping Mary enjoy peace； love； and serenity and
this is the greatest gift that you could give her。 If you are addicted to
chowder and have to eat it； you could always go out and buy a cup for lunch
tomorrow。 You will find that your love and increased consciousness will
always give you the optimal ways to veer around problems or lovingly
eliminate them。
Always remember that the individual with the higher consciousness is the one
who is most flexible who avoids fixed patterns who flows in every life
situation so as not to get involved in addictive irritations。 The individual with
the higher consciousness creates a peaceful world in which to live。 This can
be done regardless of whether or not you are with people who are
consciously working on their growth。 It takes two people to have an ego
battle。 But it only takes one person to create the peace and love of higher
consciousness！ The other person does not have to know the Living Love Way
and does not have to be trying to reprogram his alienating addictions。 He can
be inflexible； power…oriented； ego…dominated； and hostile。 If you can operate
from the Love Level of Consciousness or any higher level； your love and your
conscious perceptiveness will enable you to flow in every situation。
Once we see the possibility of living in a peaceful and loving world all of the
time （regardless of anything people may do or say）； we find that there are
certain life situations that often flip us back into the power level of
consciousness。 For example； our power addictions may manifest themselves
when we know we are right； but the other person stubbornly refuses to follow
our instructions。 We need to remind ourselves that getting irritated will only
make the situation more plicated。 Oftentimes we get annoyed when we
are inconvenienced in some way by another person。 We irritate ourselves
when people do not follow agreed…upon rules or when someone is
thoughtless。 We often create resentment in ourselves when we’re trying to
explain about how we think and what we’re trying to do and other people
do not seem to be interested。 We irritate ourselves when we perceive that
another person is deceptive or he or she lets us down in one way or another。
We may get irritated when someone tells us something we already know。 Or
perhaps we are meditating and we annoy ourselves when someone is not
sensitive to our desire for silence。 Or perhaps we are busy and someone is
not aware of our inner flow when we are trying to finish a task。 Or we have
responsibilities and another person does not recognize that this is our
province where we’re entitled to make decisions。
Sometimes we irritate ourselves when we find that other people are impatient
and want us to move faster than we are moving。 Or perhaps someone
repeatedly interrupts us。 Sometimes we feel paranoid when someone does
not return our friendliness。 Some of the people in our lives will attack us with
anger and hostility。 And unless we are thoroughly able to operate our
consciousness on the fourth level of unconditional love； we will immediately
throw ourselves back into the power level and our response will mirror their
uptightness。
It is necessary for you to tell yourself that you have been trying to handle
these situations all of your life by using dominance； pecking…order
forcefulness； emotional uptightness； barter； gifts； and other manipulative
techniques。 These power methods have not yet enabled you to create a
fulfilled and beautiful life。 Now it is time to switch over and use only love
and expanded consciousness as your guides whenever the actions of people
do not fit the programs that you have conditioned into your bioputer。
You need to continually remind yourself that in none of the above situations
can you justify yourself at any time in being angry； irritable； resentful；
fearful； jealous； or anxious。 You need to realize that such situations are part
of the nowness of your life。 The game is to emotionally accept the
unacceptable。 You are trying to liberate yourself from your addictive traps。
So you use all of these experiences to grow in consciousness。 If you do get
trapped into unloving dualistic Power Level behavior； you just consciously
see the drama for what it is and you resolve not to get trapped again。 If you
stumble； just get up and go on。 Don’t bee addicted to not stumbling。
Use each fall back to the Power Level as a gift from your life to help you
bee more conscious and accepting。
The energy you put into your growth toward higher consciousness can be
increased if you deeply realize the enormous price you are now paying for
your lower consciousness addictions a toll in lost happiness； lost peace； lost
love； lost serenity； lost wisdom； and lost effectiveness。 If you put half the
energy into your consciousness growth that you put into living out your
programmed addictions； you would soon begin to live in the warmth and
beauty of higher consciousness。
The level of consciousness at which you operate determines what you notice
and what you don’t notice。 Your programming influences whether you see it
all clearly or see it through distorting ego filters whether it grabs your
consciousness or is simply seen clearly for what it is。
Love and peace are not only your goals they are also the methods you use
to get to the goals。 Always realize that it is only the programming in your
head that is separating you from the beautiful feelings of higher consciousness
every second of your life。 Happiness is there waiting inside of you and it
bees more available